...now where can I get that table. I want ONE!
This controversial topic perhaps has been endlessly debated and I can't seem to understand what the buzz is all about. My scenario is probably very similar to many moms out there. The option to work or stay at home to look after the children.
Actually, being a SAHM wasn't my first choice when I had my eldest baby daughter. I DO wanted to work after having her but the daunting task of finding a suitable babysitter (I am that fussy) coupled with stories about how some children in the care of their babysitters got hurt and worst even dead really pulled me back. The husband also wasn't in favour of a stranger caring for our baby and plus the fact that both our mothers were not able-bodied to care for an infant so I decided to resign from my job. It was an easy peasy decision to make maybe because my job then wasn't that satisfactory either. You know - low pay and overworked. Stuff like that.
Actually, being a SAHM wasn't my first choice when I had my eldest baby daughter. I DO wanted to work after having her but the daunting task of finding a suitable babysitter (I am that fussy) coupled with stories about how some children in the care of their babysitters got hurt and worst even dead really pulled me back. The husband also wasn't in favour of a stranger caring for our baby and plus the fact that both our mothers were not able-bodied to care for an infant so I decided to resign from my job. It was an easy peasy decision to make maybe because my job then wasn't that satisfactory either. You know - low pay and overworked. Stuff like that.
The initial plan was, I will start work after Kak Long has reached certain age where she no longer requires maximum assistance but then I got pregnant with second child when Kak Long was about 2 years plus. So the plan was put on hold. Still, I couldn't be bothered much about returning to work because I had my hands full with 2 small children at the time. Financial wise, it was better for me to stay home with them since most of my income would go to childcare as I wasn't earning that much. Kerja penat-penat sudahnya duit bagi kat orang.
The thing is, women have many choices nowadays. Women who chose to work out of home surely have their reasons why and so do women who chose to stay at home or work at home. Whichever choice it is, each has its pros and cons. Everyone's situation is different. So why fight over who has it better?
Sure, there are perks that comes with your decision. For women who work out of home, there is social interaction between colleagues and independence as in you could buy things you like without having to ask from your husband. As for SAHMs, the immense satisfaction you get from nurturing your children and watch them grow. To get the best of both world, some women opt to work at home and at the same time manage to take care of the household.
Of course, in every work that you do, after certain time, you'll get bored because the work has become a routine. Even SAHM is no exception. After spending most of the week with the kids all day and night, I need a break. All mothers do no matter what kind of job they held and I function better as a wife and mom if given some time out on my own. Thankfully, the weekends are reserved for this purpose. These are days when I don't feel like cooking or do any household chores. Sometimes, we'd go outings or finding favorite eateries or sometimes visit the relatives.
I have come to terms long ago that I may not be able to work out of home again (dah malas kut?) but I do have plans. That's the beauty of planning. If it doesn't turn out as expected, there is always Plan B or C. Ha ha!
Even though I like this job very much but I certainly do no want to be stuck at being SAHM for the rest of my life. I envision some small home-based business (whatever that is) or enrol myself in domestic skill courses such as sewing or knitting or even specialised cooking. And I probably could achieve all this when my children have grown up and I have extra time on my side.
Well, that's the plan for now.
The thing is, women have many choices nowadays. Women who chose to work out of home surely have their reasons why and so do women who chose to stay at home or work at home. Whichever choice it is, each has its pros and cons. Everyone's situation is different. So why fight over who has it better?
Sure, there are perks that comes with your decision. For women who work out of home, there is social interaction between colleagues and independence as in you could buy things you like without having to ask from your husband. As for SAHMs, the immense satisfaction you get from nurturing your children and watch them grow. To get the best of both world, some women opt to work at home and at the same time manage to take care of the household.
Of course, in every work that you do, after certain time, you'll get bored because the work has become a routine. Even SAHM is no exception. After spending most of the week with the kids all day and night, I need a break. All mothers do no matter what kind of job they held and I function better as a wife and mom if given some time out on my own. Thankfully, the weekends are reserved for this purpose. These are days when I don't feel like cooking or do any household chores. Sometimes, we'd go outings or finding favorite eateries or sometimes visit the relatives.
I have come to terms long ago that I may not be able to work out of home again (dah malas kut?) but I do have plans. That's the beauty of planning. If it doesn't turn out as expected, there is always Plan B or C. Ha ha!
Even though I like this job very much but I certainly do no want to be stuck at being SAHM for the rest of my life. I envision some small home-based business (whatever that is) or enrol myself in domestic skill courses such as sewing or knitting or even specialised cooking. And I probably could achieve all this when my children have grown up and I have extra time on my side.
Well, that's the plan for now.
